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Saturday, 21 February 2009

Tuesday, 04 November 2008

  • Maybe...

    If you read my other blog, you will notice that I briefly mentioned having a miscarriage about a year ago. I was only a couple of months pregnant and the stress of dealing with my then boyfriend's friends led me to miscarry. For a while I just tried not to think about it, I figured it was better that it happened early on rather than to give me time to get really attached to the baby fetus, but lately with the breakup I've thought more about the maybe's and what if's. I know it's not healthy but I can't help it. At the time I was 17 and he was 16 so we wouldn't have been 'ready' for a baby, but I would give anything if I could change how things turned out. I'm firmly against abortions for any reasons other than medical ones (please don't get offended if you feel otherwise) and I believe life starts at conception, so I look at it like a person was killed and it's somehow my fault because I let myself get so stressed out that my body rejected the fetus. I know I am not to blame, but I guess breaking up with the father has started a grieving process of some sort. If I had carried it to term it would be walking and talking by now. If I ever get pregnant again, I can promise you I won't make the same mistake I made before, and neither should you; never EVER let someone drive you to the point to where you are physically unhealthy. It's not worth it.

Saturday, 18 October 2008

  • My ex's friends came between us

    My ex and i dated for over two and a half years. Two of his friends, who happened to be girls, used to always invite him everywhere they went. He told me later that it was because they said "Her mom said she could only take X number of people so you couldnt go" or "I asked them and they said they didnt feel like getting you", etc. I know it was his fault for not including me, but the girls were 'supposedly' good friends of mine, so they were equally responsible. Finally, i snapped and told him that i didnt want him hanging out with them anymore because they would lie about where they went and when, and the stress even caused me to have a miscarriage early in pregnancy. So he quit hanging out with them, and then lately they started showing up at his work, inviting him out (and not me of course). He told me he was too tired to keep his promise to go out with me one night, just for me to find out later that he hung up from saying that and went straight to one of the girl's houses to go out sign stealing. I got very emotional and told him that i was NOT going to continue to deal with two extra people in the relationship. We broke up, but later decided that we would attempt to rekindle a relationship but ONLY if he laid down boundaries that they would have to follow. I told him that he had no spine, and he just did whatever they wanted him to do and they were effectively controlling our relationship. He sat with them and had a talk about including me in things and they said "they didnt have to". I asked him if he would still hang out with them if i would be left out and he said "I dont know". That was the last straw and i told him that if he liked them so much, then he could date them because i was tired of having to adjust my relationship to cope with their bullsh*t.  He refused to enforce boundaries for his meddling friends, so he and i are no longer dating and have no prospects of ever dating agian. Basically it was all because the two girls didnt want to be nice and considerate so I dont get to have a relationship. Does anyone have anything to say or advise about this? I love him more than anything, but i literally cannot stand to live another DAY with having those two childish girls interfering in my life.

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